Observing your distractions
Let’s get clear
Most of us don’t experience distraction as a neutral event, it tends to come with a quick verdict from the inside of our minds, “I should be more disciplined, focused, and motivated. What is wrong?!”
What if distraction isn’t a character flaw or some issue with your productivity systems? What if this is a moment, when observed with curiosity, that can point us to what is happening beneath the surface.
This week’s reflection emerged for me as I recently took stock of my own path in life. From the outside, things are continually moving forward, but on the inside, I sometimes drift toward familiar distractions and get curious about the why (raise your hand if you just “end up” scrolling social media without intention 👋🏽). The question arose today in my journaling, “What am I stepping away from when I answer the call of distraction?”
Keep reading to get curious with me, without judgment, and consider what distractions might be protecting you from, or pointing you toward.
Distraction as Information, Not Interruption
We often relate to distraction as the enemy of progress, something that we need to overcome, suppress, or force our way through. But when we slow down enough to observe it, distraction can be understood as a response to internal or external overwhelm.
In The Myth of Normal, Gabor Maté reframes addiction not as a moral failing or lack of willpower, but as an attempt to escape from life when it feels too painful, demanding, or unsafe to fully inhabit. He famously suggests that the core question is not “why the addiction”, but “why the pain?”
When viewed through this lens, distractions become a softer relative of addiction — a micro escape from the present moment. Not because we are lazy or incapable, but because something about our current experience feels like too much, too fast, or too unfamiliar.
What we scroll, snack on, binge, overwork, or fixate on may be less about avoidance and more about self regulation. A way of saying: “I don’t yet have the capacity to be with what is here.”
What are you protecting yourself from?
If distractions are attempts to escape reality, they also offer clues about what reality feels like for us in that moment.
Distraction may be pulling you away from uncertainty you don’t yet trust yourself to navigate.
It may be buffering you from grief, fear, or vulnerability that hasn’t been metabolized.
It may be offering relief from expectations (internal or external) that feel misaligned or relentless.
This is not about pathologizing yourself, it’s about curiosity. It’s about recognizing that forward movement doesn’t always require force — sometimes it requires a new relationship with what’s been pulling us away.
Off The Page: Actioning The Insights
Shifting your relationship with your distractions
A different path
We’re often taught that progress requires relentless focus, but there’s another path that works from the inside out.
When you loosen your grip on outcomes and meet distractions with awareness rather than shame, they shift from obstacles into sources of insight. In this way, mindfulness becomes a quiet back door to accomplishment, reducing the internal friction that makes effort exhausting and revealing what you truly need to move forward with ease and self-trust.
Give these exercises a try as the urge to distract arises, and notice what shows up for you!
Name without judgment
When you notice yourself distracted, pause and simply name it out loud: “I am reaching for distraction right now.” Resist the urge to analyze or correct — the awareness alone creates a small space for your own insight to arise.
Ask the gentle question
Instead of “Why can’t I focus?”, try “What feels difficult to be with in this moment?”. Let the answer arise organically and take note.
Practice with being present
When possible, gently remain with the moment just a little longer before turning away. Notice the sensations in your body, your breath, or your emotional tone. Capacity is built in small doses — begin with 30 seconds.
Thank You
Thank you for joining me this week! I’m excited to keep sharing insights from my work, research, and personal journey with you.
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ADRIA — MOSES
“I’ve lived with Crohn’s Disease for most of my life. It’s invisible, unpredictable, and exhausting, and this January I’ll be having another major surgery. This time, I’m choosing to do it differently. I’m asking for help. I created a GoFundMe to support my healing — the time I’ll need to rest, the cost of care, and the essentials that make recovery possible.
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